Wisdom vs. Wit
“WISDOM IS BETTER THAN WIT, AND IN THE LONG RUN WILL CERTAINLY HAVE THE LAUGH ON HER SIDE.” –Jane Austen, personal correspondence
As I hesitated to write what is on my mind, I find myself focusing on my writing style. I have written four books and each is unique in plot and in the tone of the book. I have ventured from deeply emotional (Mr. Darcy’s Promise) to light and funny (Pride and Persistence) to uplifting and spiritual (To Refine Like Silver), to hopeful and enlightening (Hope For Mr. Darcy: Book 1 The Hope Series due out this June!) –Why are they so different? What is it that binds them similar besides the fact that I wrote them? What are my strengths? What are my weaknesses as an author?
A person is not always aware of their talents, and the feedback on Mr. Darcy’s Promise indicates that I did a good job pulling the reader into the emotions the characters were portraying. This leads me to think that I tend to over narrate the character’s thoughts and “jump heads” in a single scene. I have deep insights and metaphors that most people enjoy figuring out, but I am a terrible editor and have a shocking lack of commas! My books are fast paced with lots of variety of romance, action, suspense, and angst, but sometimes I need to flesh the scene out a bit. I write great epilogues, but my beginning chapters could use some work. This feedback only motivated me to be a better writer.
One thing I always thought I wanted to do better is to insert clever comments. As I tried to incorporate this, I discovered that it is difficult to develop a sense of humor. However, there is a strength that might compensate for the lack of sarcastic make-you-laugh-out-loud humor and one-liners that every author hopes will be quoted to her audience’s friends, thereby spreading the author’s work. I think the strength I have is wisdom, which makes up for the lack of wit. I know that sounds almost egotistical, but I have to tell you where I think wisdom comes from.
People are born with intelligence. That person can develop an educated learning with schooling. But wisdom? Wisdom comes from experience. In this world of give-it-to me-now, one-click buy on demand persona, there is something to be said for learning things the hard way and taking something from it. There is a new seed of wisdom that is planted with each trial we face that makes us grow and push ourselves into better people – people with more wisdom.
I learned young growing up in a family of 13 children that we do not always get what we want unless we work hard for it. Not a one of my siblings could be described as entitled. I learned wisdom through getting married young and starting a family while in nursing school that time management was vital to success. I learned while suffering with a chemical depression that there is an inherent need, whether recognized or not, to depend on something greater than ourselves. I learned that no matter how hard we try, we inevitably fail sometimes. This was a concept I learned when I struggled for over fifteen years in a relationship that was unhealthy for both of us. I also learned that failure can be the greatest teacher for happiness. I learned a lot of things in my still-under-40 years; I had to go through hard things.
Perhaps I do not write great one-liners, but I have wisdom in my books that may be the greatest thing I can offer my readers. So each of my books may be different in tone, but there is always something that makes it all worth it. I hope to pass on some of my wisdom to you, no matter how great or small it is, because in the long run, we all eventually laugh at our experiences. So as Jane Austen put it: “Wisdom is better than wit, and in the long run will certainly have the laugh on her side.”
Hey Lady Publications