Yes, I have another movie I wish to talk about. It is The Intern with Robert DeNiro and Anne Hathaway. Not only is it really funny, there are some things discussed that brings up many great points in society.
The movie is set in modern time, and it is dealing with an online business that is owned by Anne Hathaway. Her business partner decides that they should offer a senior intern program and that Anne’s character, Jules, have one of the interns directly under her.
Anne is a driven, obsessively busy mom, wife, and runs her company which expanded rapidly in less than 2 years. She is constantly involved in all that is going on in the business, and lives a hectic life. Her husband is a stay at home dad, raising their elementary school aged daughter.
She gets Robert DeNiro’s character, Ben, as the intern assigned to her. Ben is 70, has a degree, was a supervisor for a company for most of his life. He comes to work in a suit and tie, an old fashion briefcase, and very little skill on the electronic freeway. There are three young men, in their 20’s, who work alongside of Ben.
One of the scenes, the mom is at the daughter’s school love slamming Jules for her work and her husband usually one of the “moms” with the kids. The women belittle her, saying that there was a party going on the following week, and that they knew she wouldn’t be able to make the guacamole, so she could purchase some for the party. Jules goes back to her car (she is chauffeured around by Ben), and comments about how the women still did not understand or have tolerance for those had a career and was the boss of her own business. True, there are still people who look down their noses on women who aren’t barefoot and pregnant, taking care of their family and home. Though it is sad to see young women having this engrained in them. We have been fighting for respect for hundreds of years, come on ladies, open your minds.
Another issue they talk about is young men today versus older men, as to their clothing and behavior. The young men Ben works with think he is crazy for wearing coat and ties, and why carry a pocket cloth (smaller handkerchief). Ben explains that men should carry pocket cloths because women cried, and it was the gentlemanly thing to do, have the cloth handy to give the lady. One of the men was invited to go to a gathering and he asked Ben for advice. The young man was dressed in baggy pants, t shirt with a hooded sweatshirt over top. Obviously, extremely casual, if you can even consider that. Ben has him put on a button up shirt, and it was amazing the simple button front shirt made in making the young man treated better. The young men began emulating Ben in his dress style, and found a completely different attitude in how they felt about themselves. One of Ben’s lines was that they needed to tuck their shirt in. He asked why no one tucked anything in anymore.
How many of us dress up to go to work? Since I work from home, I am not going to say what I wear at work. But in this fast paced world, we tend to make things casual, rather than professional. I can remember one of the security positions I had years ago (in another lifetime, BC- which in my world means Before Caitlin, my daughter). I learned how to tie a necktie, and one place they wanted me to wear a skirt. I convinced them to allow split skirt, but even that was inappropriate for the work, as I had to climb up in areas to do things like tend to the flag. When I worked of the police, in 1993, it was amazing how the women’s uniform differed from the men’s. But we had button up shirts and straight legged slacks that we wore, with black socks and black shoes or boots. I recently saw a photo of what they wear in the crime lab now, and they are wearing polo shirts with utility pants. Practical, but the look is far more casual.
Another point was made about men being gentlemen. Have we, as ladies, made it impossible to behave in the manner they were raised? Never strike a female…good idea, yet there are women who truly deserve to have a good smack for their behavior. Some women purposely goad men, knowing they will not strike back. That is cruel. I am not advocating striking anyone, it is the philosophy behind this example. We cannot have our cake and eat it too. Do we want men to do things like open doors for us, help us in our seats, or do we prefer to have them treat us as if we are just one of the guys? I am all for equality, same pay for women as men, and women can do most of the same jobs as men (I do not think that women could be sperm donors, just saying). But I also do not mind having doors opened for me, or treated with kindness. If someone opens a door for me or offers me their seat, no problem, I am grateful for their thoughtfulness. But do I demand this treatment? Absolutely not.
In the movie, Jules makes a comment that women went from girls to ladies, yet on the other side of the coin, men and gentlemen became boys. Have we rocked the world to the point men are getting confused? If so, what can be done to fix the situation? How do we accept the kindness and being treated “like a lady”, yet are treated fairly and with respect?
So those are the questions to keep in the back of our minds. What do you think?