Five Lessons from Austen

Five Lessons from Austen

I read a blog post recently – Ten Lessons Every 21st Century Woman Can Learn from Jane Austen. It was delightful and spot-on. I won’t revisit the list here because it might influence my thinking –you can find linked on Katherine’s Facebook Page – but it got me pondering what this incomparable author has taught me over the years…



  1. Never judge people too soon – or perhaps never at all. There’s the obvious pointer to Elizabeth Bennet here. What a misjudgment she made! But Elizabeth isn’t the only character who “never knew myself ” – and it wasn’t only Darcy she misjudged. Elizabeth also misjudges, Charlotte; Emma, Miss Bates; Marianne, Elinor… The list is endless and I suspect it’s that way because it’s a common failing. We constantly judge people, and wrongly.
  2. A walk is always a good thing. Need to clear your head? Take a moment walking outside. Need to gain some perspective or relax? Again, take a walk. Need exercise and a chance to enjoy the world around, or avoid an unwanted guest – Again… go for a walk. Besides all these benefits, it keeps your figure “light and pleasing.” (Thank you, Darcy, for that visual – he wasn’t talking about walking, but as Elizabeth did a lot of it, I’m sure it helped.)
  3. Marriage is hard work. There are few older, happily married couples in Austen, but those who demonstrate a firm commitment to working and being together. Mrs. Croft sailed the world with the Admiral. The Gardiners traveled together, laughed together and, when faced with the Lydia situation, they clearly consulted together.
  4. Know thyself. Pay attention and learn from your mistakes. First and foremost, Austen’s books are journeys in self-discovery. Young heroines learn who they are, where they stand, and who they want to be – and if that comes with love, all the better. So pay attention to the lessons that come your way and learn from them – or you may need to go through them again, and again, and again.
  5. Respect your parents. Austen clearly shows that’s not always easy. But she also reveals the complexity and enduring dependence within those relationships. We are tied together for life – and our parents deserve our respect. Must remind my children of this one.

There you go. I know there are others… Perhaps I’ll attack another 5 next month. What do you think? Are there lessons you’ve learned and you’d like to share?

I’m listening…

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9 Responses to Five Lessons from Austen

  1. I agree with the first four but having worked with abusive parents as a caseworker with Children, Youth and Families I must say some parents not only do not deserve respect but also should be deprived of their right to bear children.

  2. This was a very informative post. You are correct… Austen was a tremendous author. Her observations of people and their foibles and actions [good or bad] gave her plot bunnies [as we say] that produced 6 books [classics] and various other writings. I think that is why her stories translate so well into different genres, time, place, era and all manner of situations. Because… at the base… Austen’s stories are human stories full of real people with real problems and situations to work through. I look forward to you next post and your observations.

  3. From Elizabeth, I learned to stand up for myself and not be afraid of someone just because they have a title and seem important. That was my big takeaway from her scene with Lady Catherine.

    Anne taught me to trust my own heart, not necessarily what other people think is best for me.

    Elinor taught me not to jump to conclusions.

    Emma taught me that people need to match their own hearts, and that careless words can be cruel even when they’re not meant to be.

    Fanny taught me not to settle for second best in matters of the heart.

    And Catherine taught me never to read scary stories before bedtime!

  4. Great post! Love it! Very informative. Jane Austen is a very wise woman. Can’t wait for your book to come out!

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