Birth Order in Jane Austen’s Families

Birth Order in Jane Austen’s Families

Birth order has an impact on your personality and behaviour, according to many psychologists. Some of the stereotypes related to sibling birth order have primarily been confirmed by scientific studies, but at Jane Austen’s time, such observations would have remained anecdotal only.

Whether you trust said studies or not, it is worth checking out what this observant writer, so talented at describing human emotions, behaviours and interactions, made of the supposed characteristics of children born in the same family, depending on their birth order.

Firstborns, the Responsible Ones?

When it comes to firstborns, stereotypes abound. Because they enjoy the attention of both parents, firstborns are supposedly born leaders, conscientious and responsible achievers, and at the same time tend to be overly cautious, perfectionists and even controlling.

Some of Jane Austen’s characters who are firstborns neatly fit in this category, and you need not look further than collected Elinor Dashwood of Sense and Sensibility, always so organised and responsible (Mrs Dashwood definitely wasn’t a firstborn!). Charlotte Lucas of Pride and Prejudice, who opts for financial security in the shape of a marriage of convenience rather than becoming a burden for her family, is another sensible older sibling.

Mr Darcy in Pride and Prejudice and Mr Knightley in Emma are further examples of firstborn children whose diligence and sense of responsibility for the lives of others are acute, and who respect their elders and want to be the best at everything they do. But this attitude is not always laudable, in Jane Austen’s opinion: Sense and Sensibility‘s Edward Ferrars has such a warped sense of honour that he is prepared to marry a silly woman simply because he promised to do so as a bored young man.

Not all firstborns fit the idealistic picture of duty and respectability. Elizabeth Elliot, Anne’s eldest sister in Persuasion, is selfish, hedonistic, snobby and full of her own firstborn privilege as the eldest Elliot daughter. Tommy Bertram of Mansfield Park is charming and fun, but also thoughtless, even callous, to the point that his spending habits put his brother Edmund’s inheritance and future happiness in jeopardy.

Free-spirited Last Borns

At the other end of the spectrum, we find the baby of the family. Youngest children are supposed to have benefited from their parents’ increasingly lax approach to parenting, especially if there are several siblings between them and the firstborn. They are often accused of being attention-seekers, but on the plus side, they tend to behave in uncomplicated, spontaneous ways.

Lydia Bennet, Elizabeth’s baby sister in Pride and Prejudice, is the Austen character that most closely fits the stereotype. She is fun-loving and outgoing, but also self-centred and manipulative. Lydia elopes with the man she wants without thinking of the consequences. Marrying without parental consent was a severe affront to the family, and therefore a rare occurrence, but interestingly, Mansfield Park’s Julia Bertram, who also elopes, happens to be the youngest Bertram sibling.

To find out what happens when freedom-loving youngest children acquire responsibilities, look no further than Mary Musgrove, the youngest Elliot sister in Persuasion. Mary has a knack for getting others (particularly her sister Anne) to stand in for her when it comes to dealing with the less unpleasant aspects of being a grown-up, such as having to miss out on social occasions on account of sick children.

Amongst the men, there is perhaps a no better example of a spoilt youngest child in Austen’s novels than the foolish Robert Ferrars, Edward Ferrars’ younger brother in Sense and Sensibility. The first time Elinor meets him, at a jeweller’s, he is buying a fancy and ridiculously expensive toothpick case. Need I say more?

Middle Children, the Great Question Mark

What about the children who fall in the middle in sibling birth order? It turns out that they are a bit of a mystery and can turn out either way. In some cases, their behaviour is close to what one might expect from the stereotypical older sibling. Mansfield Park’s Edmund Bertram is a man of honour who cares about those less privileged than himself and is prepared to forfeit their future happiness because of a higher sense of morality. He will not contemplate not going into the church, as is his vocation, even if this means renouncing the woman he loves.

Anne Elliot of Persuasion is another example of a middle child behaving in a far more sensible way than her elder siblings. She is also a bit of a loner, a trait that she shares with Mary Bennet, the middle child in Pride and Prejudice. Poor Mary is definitely the odd one out amongst the Bennet sisters, not just because she isn’t as pretty as the rest of them, but also because the other four are so clearly paired off from the beginning.

There are also instances of middle children who refuse to blend into the familial background and stand out to find a place within the family. In Sense and Sensibility, Marianne Dashwood is not exactly a wallflower, drawing attention to herself at every possible occasion. In Pride and Prejudice, spirited Elizabeth Bennet is her father’s favourite and the most magnetic of all five sisters.

All in all, I am sure that Austen would have agreed with Dr Kevin Leman, a psychologist who has studied birth order for decades, who said that “the one thing you can bet your paycheck on is the firstborn and second-born in any given family are going to be different.”

What do you make of Austen’s depiction of birth order and the impact it has on the personalities of her characters? Do you identify as one character in particular?

14 Responses to Birth Order in Jane Austen’s Families

  1. Interesting post, Eliza. I’m the oldest of four children and the only female. I was an adult before I realized that I resented having to help raise my brothers. Whoops! I also married two first borns. Thinking about Austen’s characters, Jane Bennet only exhibited a couple of the characteristics of firstborns while Elizabeth seemed to have the others. Wonder if Jane Austen did that on purpose. And, yes, I do identify with Elizabeth Darcy nee Bennet. 🙂

    • Another example of girls helping raise their younger siblings. It must have been difficult at times to have so much responsibility. Interesting that you too married first borns! As for Jane B, I never doubt that Austen had a plan when she created her. If you think about it, the eldest Bennet sister is the picture of perfection. She’s the most beautiful of the sisters, the most devoted to her difficult mother, the most patient with the younger ones, the one who never loses her composure. Perhaps Austen intentionally created her that way to make her contrast with Elizabeth more striking. An interesting point to raise! Thanks for your comment.

  2. I am the oldest of two brothers. Because mom and dad had to work, I helped take care of the baby and saw that things were taken care of at the house. Over the years, I cooked and cleaned and when I was able to drive, I helped get the boys to school. At one point we were at three different schools. To this day the youngest sees me as his second mom. My middle brother actually was the rebellious one as he felt left out. Because I was a girl, my mother was very restrictive of me and ‘my reputation’ and my brother felt they paid more attention to me and not to him. He was left to himself… or so he thought. I resented the restrictions and felt they let him do whatever he wanted. So goes the teenage mind. We were both wrong. However, my youngest brother grew up and became a fine young man. I am quite proud of him. My middle brother doesn’t have much to do with the family. He is a hard worker and keeps to himself. He left home at an early age and has limited contact with us. Because he lives in another town, we manage to see each other when we can.

    I married a first born and that creates problems… you can only imagine. This was a very interesting post.

    • What an upbringing – and what a lovely, special relationship you have with your baby brother. It’s easy to forget that many children have to become carers, something that disproportionately affects older siblings. It would appear that circumstances forced you to fit the stereotype, especially being the only girl. Your point on marrying a first born made me chuckle… (for the record, I’m a first born!). Thanks for sharing your story.

    • Anne is one of my favourite Austen characters. I find it interesting that she’s a middle child and at times seems to blend with the background (at least to her own family’s eyes). Thanks for your comment.

  3. Interesting post! I am the youngest of my siblings I have an older brother and sister. I think sometimes the youngest gets rebellious because they feel they are in the older siblings shadow. I have never been extremely rebelilous. We do have a stubborn and headstrong gene that runs in our family!lol

    • I’d say stereotypes are just that, although there is also some truth in them. I love the idea of a stubborn and headstrong gene running in your family though Cindie! 😉

  4. Thank you for this insightful post. I wonder if there are any singletons (only children) in Jane’s works?

    • Wickham springs to mind, along with Frank Churchill, and Willoughby. What does that say about her impression of only children?

      • Let’s not forget Jane Fairfax, and possibly Mr. Rushworth and William Elliot. I’m not sure we can count Harriet Smith [Emma] as her origins were unknown. This was fun.

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