Analyzing Mr. Bennet

Analyzing Mr. Bennet

Although my first thought for this post was to put one of Mr. Bennet’s quotes at the very beginning, I thought of something better. A question: Why did Jane Austen not give Mr. Bennet a first name? She did so for just about every other character in Pride and Prejudice. Did she find him that unimportant to the plot or did she just not like him? Admittedly, he did have some bad character flaws such as indolence, sarcastic nature, and sneering attitude toward his fellow man. Did he not have at least a few redeeming qualities that we could be pleased with? Perhaps.

If we take a look at his comments to some of the events in the book, it might give us a little insight into his personality.

I love the following quotes:

Mrs. Bennet – “You take delight in vexing me. You have no compassion on my poor nerves.”

Mr. Bennet – “You mistake me, my dear. I have a high respect for your nerves. They are my old friends. I have heard you mention them with consideration these twenty years at least.”

This one is definitely my favorite of the entire book. It is his response to Mrs. Bennet when she insists he makes Elizabeth marry Mr. Collins.

“An unhappy alternative is before you, Elizabeth. From this day you must be a stranger to one of your parents. Your mother will never see you again if you do not marry Mr. Collins, and I will never see you again if you do.”

Does he take delight in vexing his wife? One does wonder when he seems to take little verbal pokes at her. Or, perhaps, he’s trying to subtly make a point, but Mrs. Bennet is not sharp enough in intellect to understand what he’s doing. He’s never openly abusive to his wife: verbally or physically. Has he just given up in encouraging his wife to moderate her reactions to circumstances? Certainly, if she learned to be less effusive or emotional over matters, her nerves might not suffer so. I can sympathize with him concerning her loud exclamations that could be very embarrassing on occasion, when in public, but his efforts to curb her enthusiasm down through the years had apparently been for naught. I wonder how long it took before he just gave up and began hiding in his library.

Or did he even try? Possibly not. After all, his estate doesn’t seem to be producing at full capacity, and Austen gave the impression 2,000 pounds per year was not that much income in light of five children, a wife, servants, and himself to care for. She also indicated that he preferred his library to doing much else. And we don’t read of him visiting tenants, riding the property looking for problems, or spending time with ledgers for Longbourn. Most of the time, he is ensconced with his books.

Mr. Bennet’s joking manner wasn’t reserved just for conversations; it also was applied in print. For example, Bennet’s comments in his letter to Mr. Collins concerning Elizabeth and Darcy’s forthcoming marriage depict wit and wisdom.

“I must trouble you once more for congratulations. Elizabeth will soon be the wife of Mr. Darcy. Console Lady Catherine as well as you can. But, if I were you, I would stand by the nephew. He has more to give.

The man was not an idiot. He was well read and well educated. Is it possible he just got caught up in trying to improve himself? Or was he putting forth an effort to understand his fellow man better and simply gave up after a while?  🙂 Probably not. More likely, he could only tolerate his wife (or family) for a short while before he lost patience, and he removed himself to his library before he lost his temper. Viewed in that light, he may a better guy than he comes off being in Austen’s book.

Then again, the book is called Pride and Prejudice, and, perhaps, Mr. Bennet is too proud to admit he made a mistake in marrying Mrs. Bennet nee Gardiner. But, then again, if he hadn’t, they would not have their daughters including Elizabeth.

Ah, Elizabeth. She definitely is her father’s favorite offspring as their personalities are very similar…to Elizabeth’s benefit and her detriment. Spending time with her father has not only given her the opportunity to develop her intellect, it has also given her time to pick up some of Mr. Bennet’s less pleasant traits such as barbed comments and not tolerating the foolish aspects of others’ personalities. After all, most of us do have some foolishness inherent in us though other good qualities may overshadow that less desirable trait. However, Elizabeth’s father’s attitude is depicted in the following quote.

“For what do we live, but to make sport for our neighbors, and laugh at them in our turn.”

Even if Mr. Bennet is a ‘good guy,’ I wouldn’t want him looking to me with a possible opportunity of getting a smile or a good laugh at my expense whether I knew it or not. It doesn’t seem kind to me. Another instance of being a bit unkind is found at the beginning of the book when Mr. Bennet hides the fact that he has already visited Mr. Bingley, and he gives his wife the runaround as to that incident leading to the opening quote of this post concerning her nerves. Mrs. Bennet’s nerves might not have been half so bad if her husband hadn’t given her little verbal pokes and prods fairly frequently. Not very kind of him.

He was just teasing, you say? I admit that teasing someone can be fun, but one has to be careful when teasing that it doesn’t become hurtful. Comments with barbs embedded can hurt if taken too far, and Mr. Bennet, as well as his favorite daughter, were probably guilty of that very thing on too many occasions though Elizabeth less so. And Mr. Bennet never seems to wake up to the fact that his wife’s worry and nerves concerning being thrown into the hedgerows when he dies are all due to his indolence in not really working his estate and not saving toward his daughter’s dowries. He may have been delivering payback to his wife for disappointing him by not being the wife he thought he married, but in doing so, he hurt his entire family. He’s a smart man, but he missed the boat entirely when it came to his lack of responsibility and the problems it caused.

Now, was he totally irresponsible? No, because he did hie off to London to search for Lydia and Wickham when he acknowledged his poor decision to allow his youngest daughter to go to Brighton with the Forsters. I imagine his lack of discipline of Lydia and his poor judgment, in this case, was quite an eye-opener for him. But did it encourage Bennet to make major changes in his life? Apparently not. Every future occurrence seems embodied in this quote.

“I admire all my three sons-in-law highly,” said he. “Wickham, perhaps, is my favorite: but I think I shall like your husband quite as well as Jane’s.”

How could he say that Wickham was his favorite? Because it was all still a joke to him.

Jane Austen never lets us know if Mr. Bennet changed in essentials or for the better. The last mention of him indicated him missing Elizabeth exceedingly and delighting in going to Pemberley when he was least expected. Now, wasn’t that a little rude of him to just ‘show up’ without alerting them he was coming? Of course, it was. But Mr. Bennet was just being Bennet and getting a laugh or a smile out of every occasion. Personally, I don’t think Austen liked or respected this character. What do you think? Let me know in your comments below. 🙂

14 Responses to Analyzing Mr. Bennet

  1. I was married to Mr Bennet! He thought of himself much like Mr Bennet, had great compassion for him. He will never call me Mrs Bennet again, divorced him!

    • Understandable if one was treated like Mrs. Bennet was treated. No respect. That does not a marriage make or work. I hope you are much happier now, Jennifer.

  2. JA did not supply first names for several characters: Mr Bennet, Mrs Bennet, the Gardiners, Colonel Fitzwilliam, Mr Hurst, and probably others. If the reader really thinks about it, Mr Bennet was neither a good husband nor father, but still it seems to me that he was endearing most of the time. I suppose that is a result of JA’s ability to sketch a lovable yet weak character, no? A thoughtful dissertation, Gianna.

    • Thanks, Janis. I agree he wasn’t a good husband or father. Lizzy loved him in spite of his flaws, and that’s what we do as well especially for family members. And I would imagine that’s what Elizabeth and Darcy would have to consider as well. Neither were perfect individuals, and I can see their flaws causing trouble on occasion. However, Bennet’s indolence put his family in a very precarious position as to the future. His wife had good cause for worry.

      • I think the answer is there. You can live him, but not respect him. And I believe the character does just that with most. I believe he lives his family, including us “silly daughters” and wife, but lacks respect for them. Irony is, he is easy to lovein his poking fun at social conventions, flouting then even, teasing and the like; indicating he doesn’t take much seriously. But, in doing so, like most real relationships, those qualities in your partner you admire, you can also come to disrespect. He is very well written.

        • I agree, Dawn, and feel that Austen may have put a lot of thought into Mr. Bennet’s character also. He may have fallen back on his rather irreverent manner because of frustration with his family and others. We do love some individuals in spite of their flaws and hope they continue to love us in spite of ours. Maybe that’s what Jane Austen was trying to bring out. 🙂

  3. I can’t say I like him much. He completely shirks his obligations as a father and husband. I agree with all the points in your article. Sure, he gets himself to London but when his brother-in-law takes over for him, he admits it won’t take him long to get over it. He is self-centred and doesn’t care if he causes pain if he thinks he is being witty or funny. An example is when Jane hurting over Bingley’s defection and he says that “women like to be crossed in love” or when Lizzy asks him to keep Lydia home, he responds with, “has she chased away some of your lovers?” He seems to enjoy working Mrs Bennet up into a tizzy and when she gets to be too much he retreats to his library and leaves her to Hill and the girls. he was lazy but luckily he did just enough to keep them from going into debt. Mrs. Bennet’s fears for her daughters were real and as you said, he didn’t seem to care or haul onboard the sorry life they might have had if they hadn’t married well.

    • Unfortunately, most of his personality and actions are on the negative side. And, yes, Mrs. Bennet’s fears are real, and she seems to care more for her daughter’s futures than he does. I can’t decide if he’s a poorer husband or father because he doesn’t seem to care enough in either area which doesn’t say much for him. Thank you for your comments, Suzanne

      • Cogent observations — altho’ when discussing Mr Bennet’s hurtful observations about Bingley, don’t forget Lizzy’s zinger: “A less agreeable man would satisfy me. We must not all expect Jane’s good fortune.” Every time I read this, or hear it on-screen, I’m shocked and disgusted. How do you say something like that, esp to a most beloved sister? Lydia may have called everything a good joke, but Lizzy was the sister who actually laughed at others … a trait she obviously inherited from her father.

        • Laughing at others was not a good trait for either of them to have. At least, Elizabeth seemed to become aware of some of her own flaws in dealing with Mr. Darcy and put forth the effort to improve. However, I guess her father was too entrenched with his bad habits and didn’t see a need for change. Too bad, as we all have some flaws that we should work to improve. 🙂

  4. I never really thought about whether Jane liked him or not.
    I know he has his moments,is indolent and could have improved the lot of his family with a little forethought,but I must admit that I’ve got a soft spot did him.

    Perhaps he rues the day he fell for a beautiful face and rushed hastily into marriage without realising that his partner was a poor match intellectually.

    Perhaps he has now reached a level of acceptance with the decisions he’s made and has settled into a comfortable complacency,a limp lethargy.

    Very interesting article,one providing much food for thought! Thank you for such!

    • You’re welcome, Mary. A limp lethargy? Hehehehehehe! I had to laugh. It’s too fitting. And, yes, I’ve got a soft spot for him too. That’s why in my books he is usually just a little better than Austen portrayed him. 🙂

    • You’re quite welcome, Georgina. And, yes I find him a little frustrating also. I’m always hoping he’ll improve with time. It was a fun post, and one I needed to really think about. 🙂

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