P&P200: Wedding Trips
Ahhh, the honeymoon… These days, it’s quite a big deal. In our busy, stressful lives, the honeymoon is the bride and groom’s escape, with just each other, for a week or two before the realities of married life begin. In Jane Austen’s time, honeymoon travel often simply meant a trip home.
For example, Austen writes of the Collins’ wedding: “The wedding took place; the bride and bridegroom set off for Kent from the church door.” And while that might have been a special circumstance, Mr. Collins being Mr. Collins, it seems as if it might have been the norm. Travel was difficult, uncomfortable, and at times, uncertain or even dangerous. Coaching houses and inns were crowded; their cleanliness was questionable, and vacancies were not guaranteed. Besides that, a good portion of marriages at that time were not love matches. Likely the couple saw no reason to moon over each other at considerable expense, preferring instead to simply get on with the ‘arrangement.’
Certainly there would have been some travel. Newly married couples might have gone to London, staying in a comfortable hotel or a family townhouse. They might have traveled to Bath or Brighton or Lyme for a little sea air, or even into Scotland. They might also have gone visiting, traveling around the country to the homes of relatives who were unable to attend the wedding. (Doesn’t sound like much of a honeymoon, does it?) Travel into Europe in the early 19th century would have coincided with the on-again-off-again Napoleonic Wars and potentially made traveling undependable and possibly dangerous. It’s conceivable that when faced with their options, the couple simply looked at each other and said, “Let us go home.”

Darcy and Elizabeth likely simply wanted an escape from the incessant prattle of the oh-so-tacky Mrs. Bennet. Not to London, but to Pemberley, with its opulent grandeur and sprawling parkland: the place were they really, truly fell in love. But it was some distance from Longbourn to Pemberley, as you can see by this JASNA map…at least a hundred miles as the crow flies, likely considerably more by road. Assuming they were traveling at a rate of eight to ten miles an hour (source), it would take them between ten and twelve hours, without stopping. And they would have had to have stopped: to rest or change out horses, to eat, and simply to escape from the bouncing, swaying motion of the carriage. It is likely they would have stopped at an inn on the first night and then hurried on to Pemberley–and home–the next.

While journeying across the English countryside in a horse-drawn carriage doesn’t sound like the perfect honeymoon, knowing that she had married her soulmate and was, even then, Mistress of Pemberley, probably kept Elizabeth in the best of spirits. And who knows what they did in that carriage…


Alyssa is the author of AUSTENTATIOUS and the upcoming AUSTENSIBLY ORDINARY.
Alyssa Goodnight
Alyssa Goodnight currently lives between Houston and Galveston with her husband, two sons, and their adventure dogs, Indiana Jones and Short Round. She does her writing with an ice-cold can of Dr Pepper and her reading with cake whenever possible (now gluten-free!) Her writing has been described as clever, quirky, captivating and delightful. She is the author of Austentatious, Austensibly Ordinary, and Unladylike Pursuits.
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Major LOL at the last line! I, in fact, have imagined what could be done in a carriage. Wrote a couple versions of that, in fact. After all, neither the bride or groom were driving, soooo…..
Excellent post, Alyssa. When you really think about it, what honeymoon destination would be better than Pemberley? Maybe Hawaii, but that wasn’t an option!
Thanks, Sharon. I did the best I could with the information I could find.
And I think Pemberley would be perfectly lovely, stress on the perfect.
In the carriage? Whatever do you mean? Of course they sat opposite each other and read a book…..Or Not!
Of course they did! Whatever was I thinking?? Oh wait, I know what I was thinking.
LOL Alyssa… I mean, if you’re gonna get jostled around anyway…
Spending the wedding night at a coaching inn, or anywhere other than home would not be great. And I never got the tradition of bringing one of the bride’s single sisters with you on a wedding trip- WHY? Couples weren’t supposed to kiss or be alone or anything and then finally they can so why bring someone else?
Because some brides didn’t really want to be alone with their husbands?? Beyond the obligatory time spent.
Im curious where the map came from
It came from the JASNA website, Patricia. There’s one for every book. Pretty cool, huh?
http://www.jasna.org/info/maps.html
I must defend Mrs Bennet, I don’t think she is tacky, rather a desperate woman who lived on her nerves and no wonder! Yes I loved the thought of Darcy and Lizzie billing and cooing in the carriage!
I agree that she was desperate and even resourceful, but there were plenty of things that she said that would have been better off unsaid, I think.
Ahhh, being trapped with Mr. Darcy in a carriage for several hours at a stretch. What a delightful idea, even with the discomfort and the risk. Thanks for your post.
You are welcome, Rosanna! Glad you enjoyed it!
I cant imagine being in a carriage for hours on end. I totally would be motion sick, even with the thought of getting better acquainted with my Mr. Darcy.
I agree with you, Karana! I would be the one wanting to stop and rest the horses!
What a lovely article, Alyssa! Thanks for this! It’s has me thinking about a “second honeymoon” perhaps for our 30th anniversary next August. Do you suppose I could talk my spouse into a trip to England so we could stay at one of the grand old houses that’s been turned into a hotel? That might be the closest I’ll ever get to Pemberley – or would that be to heaven…?
Oh that sounds wonderful, Susan! I hope you do it! How could he say no??
(And thanks!)
I had read somewhere that many of the roads were horribly maintained at the time too (because they were private so each length was maintained (or not) by the landowner on whose property the road was located) and that in order to guarantee somewhat decent and continuous passage, to get from Hertfordshire to Derbyshire, they would have had to backtrack to London and taken one of the main roads that were maintained by co-op that radiated like spokes out of London. Mighty inconvenient if you ask me. Oh, and they were also very dangerous too so it was best to stay on those main thoroughfares for safety purposes as well.
Great information, Lisa, thanks!
“Honeymoon” is the Regency period was the actual intimacies of the wedding night, rather a the journey.
And yet sadly, for some couples, “honeymoon” might not have been the best term…
In a carriage with Mr. Darcy! Happy thought indeed! Yes, Pemberley would be the perfect place to go for a honeymoon but maybe they made it to his townhouse in London for the wedding night…
Love the map as it puts it all into better perspective. Great post…thank you!
I was thrilled to find those maps! Thanks, Carole!
I’m with Carole about Darcy’s town house being a more likely venue for the wedding night. In England, in November, it would be downright dangerous to travel except in daylight (bad roads, highwaymen) and the hours of daylight were limited. It could take more than one day to travel up to Derbyshire. Nor were even the best coaching inns ideal places for a wedding night. London, on the other hand, could be reached in half a day in relative safety. The alternative would have been for them to go to Netherfield with the Bingleys, but Caroline might have been hanging around quietly gnashing her teeth and it is all too likely that Mrs Bennet would pay a morning visit.
You certainly make a good point, Kathleen.
But daylight would be limited for months to come, and eventually, they’d have to make that LONG trip to Pemberley, although, not on their wedding day.
I agree with Carole and Kathleen too. Darcy’s townhouse in London is the perfect venue for them to spend the first night together as husband and wife.
This was really fun & interesting to read & I liked the map you gave as well.
Thanks, Chelsea!
Glad you enjoyed it.
Nice article. It was interesting as well as informative. I liked hearing about the distinction of a ‘honeymoon’ then as opposed to now. Those tidbits help when reading novels set in Regency times.
Thanks for a great post.
Thanks so much, Janet! It was fun to write.
A journey into marriage with Mr Collins would be enough of a change without the trials of foreign travel, a language difficulty and a very uncomfortable seat in a crowded carriage for the many months it would take to get to Italy, etc. People would visit the continent, but they’d take a year or two to do it. I think Charlotte was just as glad to find out quickly what the house and situation were that she had sold her soul for.
I think you are quite right, Beatrice.
I’m very afraid that I wouldn’t be alone with Mr. Darcy in the carriage……He would be on horseback and I would be hanging my head out the window…GROANING!
The whole, bouncing, swaying thing would have done me in!
This was a great post, Alyssa! I really hadn’t thought about the realities of the “wedding trip”.
Thanks so much, June! There is much to be said for modern conveniences, isn’t there? Cars, trains, planes…
This post was really fun to read & I loved the picture of Pemberley at the bottom.
Glad you enjoyed it, Tina! Any picture of Pemberley is good, isn’t it?
Times and circumstances certainly have changed. I didn’t go anywhere for a honeymoon after our wedding either until several months later. We did stay at a hotel midway between the place of the wedding and our to-be home for one night. Darcy and Lizzy would have plenty of time to finally visit undisturbed and in private….smiles. Think of all the topics they could cover.