Learning from Jane Austen

I think we all love it when we meet a man who loves Jane Austen as much as we (speaking for women) do. It’s a great joy to have Jack on board with us here at Austen Authors. I am proud to say that my husband loves Jane Austen. He has read all her novels, all of my novels, and even some novels written by a few of the Austen authors here. I also have some other male friends who confess a likeness for her; one who claims she is his favorite author. Although the majority of her fans are women, there are a great deal of men out there –and have been over the two centuries since she penned them – who appreciate Jane Austen’s novels as much as any woman.

When I was trying to come up with an idea for my blog this month, I decided to do a review of a book I just finished reading. When I first heard about it, I was so intrigued that I immediately downloaded it to my Kindle and began reading it! (Yeah! for instant gratification!)

The book is called A Jane Austen Education: How Six Novels Taught Me About Love, Friendship, and the Things that Really Matter by William Deresiewicz. That’s quite a mouthful for a title of a book, let alone an author’s last name, and I still don’t get either of them correct all the time. (It is a cute cover, though, don’t you think?)

I was intrigued by this book not only because was it about Jane Austen’s novels, but it was written by a man who read Jane Austen’s novels (even though at first, he read her most reluctantly). But more than that, it was a book about what he had learned from reading Jane Austen’s novels!

The book contains 6 chapters, and I can imagine you can guess what each chapter is about. If you thought “Each of her novels,” you would be correct. Each chapter talks about a particular Austen novel, as well as what was going on in his life – how dumb he was, what a jerk he was, and what he learned about himself, life, love, etc., from her. Did I mention how dumb he was and what a jerk he was? He freely admits that even though he was highly educated, he was an arrogant fool who thought he knew everything, but discovered he knew very little!

I really enjoyed this book. I enjoyed hearing how the author was confounded by some of Austen’s characters, identified with a few, and made the wrong assumptions along with some others. What he learned from her novels, though, truly had a great impact on how he began to view friendship, community, family, and love. These lessons did not readily come to him in one reading. They came to him as he read the novels over and over, seeing things he hadn’t seen in previous readings.

Here are a few of the things he learned:.

From Emma: Everyday matters – When he began to read Emma, Deresiewicz found two characters particularly annoying: Miss Bates and Mr. Woodhouse. Miss Bates talks endlessly about inane things, almost as if something dreadful might happen to her if she stopped. Not very intelligent, her conversation was made up of the most trite aspects of her life. Mr. Woodhouse, an over-the-top hypochondriac, imagines all sorts of dreadful things that might happen to him or to others, imposing his fears and demands upon them. It was these same types of people that Deresiewicz would tune out in the world around him and he would not give them the time of day. He was pleased to see that Emma felt the same way about Miss Bates. He identified with her, as she would often put off going to visit Miss Bates when she knew she should because the woman’s endless chatter could be so tiresome. But when Emma insulted Miss Bates, even Deresiewicz realized how badly done her actions were, but at the same time, he recognized the same reprehensible behavior in himself.

From Pride and Prejudice: Growing Up – Deresiewicz very much liked the character of Elizabeth Bennet. He admired her sparkling wit and liveliness. He was insulted and angered along with her at Mr. Darcy at their first meeting. He eyed him with disdain, while thinking George Wickham would be more suitable for her. When Elizabeth received Mr. Darcy’s letter explaining the facts of Wickham to her, she was humiliated and realized that ‘Til this moment I never knew myself.’ It was a painful realization that she had only looked at things the way she wanted, and Deresiewicz was forced to examine the way he looked at things in his life, as well.

In each of Jane Austen’s books, Deresiewicz learns profound truths that help him become a better person. I found some new insights as well, about each of the books as he details the lessons he learned. He also looks to the author herself and includes excerpts from some of her letters, trying to determine what her opinion on a particular subject might have been, what point she was trying to make, and to discover those things that were important to her.

I love reading about what others see and learn from Jane Austen, and I’m confident most of the followers of this blog do, too. Each contributor at Austen Authors adds wonderful new insights into Jane and the era in which she lived, her beloved novels, and maybe a little bit of what he or she may have come to learn about themselves, as well, through reading her books.

I think any fan of Jane Austen will find this book enjoyable, as I did. You might just come away from it learning something new about her, about one of her novels, or even about yourself.

Have you ever learned anything about life from a novel, or more specifically, from one of Jane Austen’s novels?

19 Responses to Learning from Jane Austen

  • Susan Kaye says:

    I grew up in a very small family, and until my 30s I had very little experience of death in reality. But I knew it hurt for those left behind because I read Little Women when I was about 14. When Beth finally died after her long decline, I was devastated. I still tear up some when I read it. I’ve since lost my father, grandparents, and in-laws so know that genuine death leaves marks that fictional ones don’t, but I also know that well-written characters touch people that leave their own kind of impressions.

    Thanks, Kara, for an interesting question.

  • Great post, Kara – thank you! I also know men who read and love Jane Austen, which always strikes me as another of her unique achievements.

    In terms of what I learn from her, the answer is ‘lots – and it’s still going on!’ For example, in S&S we have two sisters who see the world from such different viewpoints and they have to acquire some of each other’s sense/sensibility to become more rounded people who are ultimately successful in love.

  • Jane Rubino says:

    I am a fan of Peter J. Leithart’s book “Miniatures and Morals”, discussing Austen’s novels from the perspective of the virtue – or more often, the failure of virtue – that is at the core of each of her books. He opens with the statement that “Real men read Austen.” How can you not love that?
    We have a couple pound hounds, one is a barker. He will bark at anything or nothing, and after a particularly long aria al fresco, my husband opened the back door and called out, “Tyson! You have delighted us long enough!”

    • Jane! I’ve never met him, but I think I like your husband!

    • Monica P says:

      That is too funny! I love quoting P&P, though it usually gets me some strange looks. It’s fun to try on Regency-speak, too.

      This book looks pretty good, I’ll have to give it a look.

    • Lisa S says:

      OMgoodness. Thank you Mr Rubino for providing such a wonderful laugh. That’s a good egg!

  • Kara: this is awesome because it explains (in ways I can’t) how JA really understood humanity. Every time I re-read her, I’m struck by how very real to life her characters are, and not just the ‘good’ ones. :D

    This sounds like an awesome book, and I may have to find it. Thanks for a great post.

  • Kara, this was a wonderful and intriguing post, and I just loved it! I will definitely be looking for this book when I’m in the bookstore. What you and William Deresiewicz have said about Jane Austen and learning a great deal, not only about humanity, but about ourselves as well, is so true! I don’t think there’s been a day that’s gone by in the last several years that I haven’t thought of her, or her characters, especially when life becomes challenging. Thanks so much for such a wonderful post!

    Best,
    Susan

  • Karen Wasylowski says:

    Kara, lovely post. Amazing that a two hundred year old author like Jane Austen still lives and breathes and has relevance. Bravo

  • Mary Simonsen says:

    I just finished reading this book and enjoyed it as well. The author even made me see the merits of Mansfield Park, a book I never liked.

  • Kara Louise says:

    I read Pride and Prejudice when our son went off to college. What I learned from that book was to not judge based on first impressions. Every time we saw our son, he had done something different with his hair — let it grow long, died it jet black, spiked it, etc. But he was always the same great son. It helped me to look at other kids (as well as adults) and try to see beyond the externals and see what was inside of them. Some times you have to look pretty hard, but if you are persistent, you’ll see them.

    Thanks for your comments. Mary – I, too , enjoyed his comments on Mansfield Park.

  • I’ve seen this book a number of times and wondered about it. The cover is cute, but in a way I think that might detract from the serious nature of the contents. At least that was my assumption; that it was a tongue in cheek sort of book.

    Thanks for the review, Kara. Like you I love it when a man steps up and admits to liking and appreciating any kind of literature deemed only for chicks!

  • Lisa S says:

    What a great post Kara. I too am always intrigued by a man who has read and enjoyed JA. I once encountered a man while I was out and about reading S&S. I had to comment (even though he was a complete stranger to me) so asked if he was a fan. He said that he was actually a fan of humor & zombies so had read P&P&Zombies but, having read it, felt compelled to read the original. He read P&P and loved it and decided he had to read ALL of JA’s novels. Yay for P&P&Z and men who aren’t afraid to admit they like JA. They are good books. That’s why they’ve lasted!

  • Bonnie Carlson says:

    Great post, Kara. I teach P&P every semester to my seniors and am always pleasantly surprised by the number of boys who openly admit to loving the story. I always compare Austen to Shakespeare in that both have an unparalleled ability to understand and realistically portray human nature. One of the things we focused on this year was the variety of coping mechanisms the characters had adopted. All the Bennett girls have developed behaviors that allow them to distance themselves from the disfu croon of their family. Lizzy laughs it off, Jane makes excuses for everyone, Mary preaches, and Kitty and Lydia simply go their own way and ignor it. Mr. Darcy obviously distances himself from a superficial world that he hates, although, being born to that world, he tries to justify it’s values. I find all her novels to be rich in insights to human nature, which I suppose, is why I never tir of reading them.

  • Bonnie Carlson says:

    That should read disfunction, ignore, and tire!

  • Jakki L says:

    I have seen that book at the library and keep contemplating checking it out. I think I will have to do just that! Thanks for the great post! There is so much to learn reading Austen’s novels!

  • I have yet to meet a man who loves Austen as much as I do. Perhaps that’s why I enjoy The Jane Austen Book Club. The guys in the story finally get it.
    Thanks for reviewing A Jane Austen Education for us, Kara. I had considered downloading it to my eReader and will probably do so now on your recommendation.
    Joanne

  • BeckyC says:

    You have definatley intrigued me! I think I will have to hunt this one down!

  • Regina Jeffers says:

    For each of those men mentioned above we should purchase a “Real Men Read Jane Austen” t-shirt.

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